Letting go has been one of the most hardest thing we can ever do. We all face the same problems. As humans, yes we do. It may not be now, but somehow later in life, we will probably experience this pain. At that point of time, it may be a big blow. But when you're looking back, it probably doesn't really mean a thing. Yes, it may help you in your growth to be become stronger and more matured then before, and the pain will definitely go away. Maybe we should bear with it at that point of time, but what is the reason why we all can't let go? It looks as though it is easier than it seems, because as we're thinking about it now, we don't really experience it, we would just say, "Oh, when I'm out of love, I'll do this.... I'll do that...." But when it really happened, we feel lost and not in control, so we don't really follow what we say before. I feel, that our feelings affect us most in times like this. Because when we are calm, we are able to think, and hence the statement, "I'll do this... I'll do that.... when that happens." But when that incident really occurs, how would we feel. In this case, when we are breaking up, we panic. Our mind wonders. When we are out of love, we are hurt. Focusing probably only on the only thing we want to focus on, our other half. But we are not able to think, about the others, friends, family, relatives, and how they feel. Most importantly, we are unable to think of what matters most, hence, not being able to move on... ... Stuck in the past, where you would only think of the memories you and your other half had. While your other half may have moved on, you are still stuck at where you are, unable to pull yourself together, making yourself a walking corpse, making yourself think, "What's life, when he/she is not here." One action, one decision, could make a big difference in a person's life. While the other wouldn't know it, the pain in you is like eating you alive. The pain that we suffered, has caused us to be unable to completely let go. The deeper pain we suffer, the more we are unable to let go. Then, what caused the deep pain? Loving too deeply. As they say, our actions will be followed by consequences. So the consequence of loving to deeply is suffering deep pain.

In another point of view, the reason why we can't let go is probably 'cause we are reminded of the other half, everywhere we go. Every street we walk, every corner we turn, it's like watching an old movie of memories. What you and your other half did together, the feelings you shared. When you're reminded, the pain comes back again. The whole problem here is just probably the pain, so we need to get rid of it, but to get rid of it, you have to get rid of your memories. But the memories you have will forever be there, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Unless somehow you have found this brainwashing machine, then ta-da, in a minute, you are normal again. So no worries there. But the problem is, in this century, nothing like that exist...yet. So how do we mentally get rid of the pain? Think of the bad points of the person and hate them for life? To me, that doesn't really work. It sucks actually. As people say, hating a person can be really tiring. Why tire yourself out? So how? How how how? Maybe... direct your vision or whatever you're focusing on (which probably is your partner), onto another path. When your relationship path failed, it's like as though the world of light has gone black. Time is the best healing medicine, so let time heal your path, but 'til then, focus on another path; your career path, your schoolwork path or something like that. Sometimes, people say, "I CAN'T FOCUS ON ANOTHER PATH, ALL I THINK ABOUT IS HIM/HER!" or "I'm in the same class/school as him/her, I see him/her everyday, how can I not think of him?!?!" Sorry to offend, but this is what I think to be more of a sensitive person. Like, mentally sensitive, not physically. (The real meaning might not apply here but still...) And you guys are the ones that probably love too deeply.

Let's deal with the second one first - "I'm in the same class/school as him/her, I see him/her everyday, how can I not think of him?!?!" - well, your partner my be already moving on, or he/she may have the same feeling as you. If it is in that case, think again why you left each other. 'Cause to me, that'll be damn retarded.

Dealing with the first one - "I CAN'T FOCUS ON ANOTHER PATH, ALL I THINK ABOUT IS HIM/HER!" - Well then, I categorize this as those people who don't believe in themselves, the ones who don't have confidence they can move on. (Sorry to offend again O_O) But, these people, in fact, are the ones that will grow and mature even more than anyone, and in the end, they will thank the person who made them stronger. Yes, many people said this, I for once don't really agree with this statement to much extent. But to a certain extent, it is still true. Because we may not know it, as we don't usually observe our own behavior, but deep inside, we did change. Only maybe Him knows this change, maybe those people that are very close to us recognise this change, but we, ourselves, do not know it. So we may say, "I feel hurt." Definitely. But how do we deal with these sorrows? How do we overcome them, first thing we have to do is to calm ourselves, think. Was the decision made right and best? What should I do now? Should I believe? Believe. You can help yourself in many ways, more than you think, more than you know, yes, things happen for a reason, but not everything single thing is the happenings of God, but instead, He'd probably give you the choice to make, let you have the freedom to choose, if the choice made was wrong, then we'd learn from it, directly or indirectly. If the choice made was right, we live to our choices without regretting.
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